Hey there and welcome back!
At the end of my last post I left you all with a bit of a cliffhanger (hanging on by the tips of your fingers, I know, I know). I talked all about 2018, about goals and resolutions, and assessed how I did with those last year (if you haven’t read it, you can find it here) but I didn’t tell you what my goals are for 2019! Well, the moment you have been waiting for:
- Publish my second children’s book: This is already written and I have about half of the illustrations completed! It is all about different types and structures of families… and that’s all I have to say for now! More will be revealed in the upcoming weeks and months.
- Bullet Journaling: This is a type of journaling/list-making created by Ryder Carroll. I hope to make this an ongoing habit and I hope that it will help me to keep better track of all of the different aspects of my life (home, finances/taxes, business, meal planning, weight loss goals, publishing timelines, mental health, etc.) I love making lists and I love the idea of not only having them all in the same place, but having a system of symbols for the type of entry and the status of tasks. (Learn more about the system here.) Plus, it seems that a large part of the system is a focus on intentionally setting goals for the day and evaluating progress in the evening. (I say “seems” because I haven’t read the book/official guide yet. That’s a potential to-do (I recommended that my local library purchase a copy), though I don’t think it’s necessary to understand, use, or benefit from the system.) I have been trying to consistently keep up with this for the past couple weeks and I see a lot of potential.
- Physical Health: This one is pretty straightforward; I want to be in better shape. I want to feel confident in my body. I want to be able to look in a mirror and not cringe. I want to be able to put up pictures on my site of me making art, some behind-the-scenes type of photos, without hating myself in the process. Yes, part of this is self-confidence and self-love and body positivity. But part of this is also exercising and eating healthily. I have a number goal I would like to reach, but I am going to keep that private for now, given how insecure I am these days about my weight. Plus, I am open to the possibility of that number fluctuating if I am gaining muscle instead of just losing fat.
- Reading list: This includes both specific books, as well as yet-to-be-selected books based on certain topics. Some examples include:
- The Power of Habit (in progress)
- The Bullet Journal Method
- A book about racial inequality/systemic injustice
- Something by Henry David Thoreau
- T.S. Eliot (“The Waste Land”)
- When Breath Becomes Air
- A book about food/health/nutrition (maybe Animal, Vegetable, Miracle?)
- Another great fiction book (suggestions anyone?)
- Finances: Both business and personal finances. I would like to have a more consistent method for keeping track of these (again, I am hoping the bullet journaling helps with this). We have tried apps, physical records, and spreadsheets, but nothing so far has really stuck. We have a budget and we sort of stick to it, but I am hoping for a bit more financial confidence this year.
- Volunteer: I went from being a volunteer-prone girl scout who was constantly looking for opportunities build my resume, to spending my college years in a ministry and church where I volunteered a great deal of my time, to being a nanny where I was constantly giving of myself to a little one, to now where I really only do things for myself and my husband. I honestly think I have needed a season to focus on myself, my mental and emotional health, and my ability to set boundaries. I got into some very dysfunctional friendships and situations because of my constant desire to put others above myself and it really took its toll. However, I don’t want to stay in this self-focused place forever. I do recognize that if we have kids, that will automatically change and part of me is really enjoying this season, knowing that it probably won’t last forever. But another part of me desperately misses the feeling of giving back and of being a part of something larger than myself. (This is where I tend to go on mental tangents of, if I like it isn’t it still just self-serving? and what is really worth my time anyway? So many volunteer organizations are just treating systems, not the root of the problems… But I’m choosing to cut that train of thought off short today.) So basically, I think it would be cool to volunteer somewhere this year. Even if it’s just once. For a while I really enjoyed Habitat for Humanity. Doing something with kids could be cool too. Hopefully, if I feel a bit more confident about our finances (see the last bullet point), I will feel more freedom to spend my time doing things that don’t pay me in dollars.
- Marriage: My husband and I have definitely have grown in our relationship and our communication skills, but every marriage has room for growth and I am planning to make that a priority this year. We signed up for an app recommended to me by a friend called the Lasting app, that has a bunch of different modules and conversation topics and relationship assessments. We completed the free trial and decided that the health of our marriage was worth the cost of a subscribtion and so we will be using that as a framework for strengthening ‘us’ this year.
- Environmental Consciousness: This is already something that is part of my life, but I want to devote even more attention to it this year. Which products can I go without or purchase a more sustainable version of? How can I reduce my carbon footprint? How can I live more sustainably? One thing I have already done was purchase silicone mats for my baking trays in lieu of parchment paper. I also hope to get resuable snack bag and bamboo toothbrushes. I want buy locally when I can, instead of always opting for big box stores and Amazon. I want to consume less and continue recycling. Any other ideas of things to add to this list?
Finally, I have some general things that I would like to work on this year that are less quantifiable, but still very important. I would like to be less critical and judgmental of myself and others, I want to continue working to combat my social anxiety, I want to laugh more, focus on being thankful, have more fun, and be more lighthearted. My husband and I get so easily bogged down with dark and heavy topics, with stress and anxiety, and I think we both want to have an increased freedom from that.
Well, that was my 2019 new year’s resolutions! What do you think? Do you make resolutions? If so, care to share? I’m always interested to hear what people are planning for the new year!
As always, thanks for reading!
Until next time,